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Is having sex during pregnancy safe?

In general, there is no reason to interrupt your normal sex life. Many partners are concerned that having sex will hurt the baby, or that orgasms will start labor or cause bleeding. In a normal pregnancy, none of this is possible. The baby is well-protected by fluid, muscle, and bone and won’t be bothered one bit. However, if you have a history of miscarriages, pregnancy-related vaginal bleeding or other complications, your doctor may recommend that you abstain from sex. The last four to six weeks of pregnancy might be too uncomfortable for you to have intercourse. Also, mood shifts and emotional changes during pregnancy may cause you to lose interest in sex. If this happens to you, be sure to discuss your feelings with your partner.

Paula Greer
Midwifery Nursing Specialist

For most people with no other concerns, sex during pregnancy is perfectly normal and safe. Many women feel more amorous during pregnancy if they are not suffering from first trimester nausea/ vomiting and or the normal sleepiness early on. Many partners are turned on by mom’s increase in breast size and her new found desires. On the flipside some moms are too tired, feel awkward, fear miscarriage and or spend too much time nauseated to even consider sex. Dads sometimes fear they will hurt mom or the baby and avoid sex during pregnancy. Some even suffer from a Madonna complex (You don't make love to your mother!). The trick is to have both mom and dad on the same page (interested or not) at the same time. Healthcare providers are used to patients asking about sex during the prenatal visit so don't hesitate to bring up your questions with you to your midwife or ob/gyn. They have many helpful hints for creative positioning during the last few months.

Sex during pregnancy is perfectly safe for most couples, says nurse midwife Paula Greer. Watch the video to learn some ways to shift the baby weight to make sex more comfortable for a mom-to-be.

 

Thanks to pregnancy-related mood swings, one minute you may crave nothing more than a steamy sex session, and the next you may feel about as sexy as clay.

So, if you do want to have sex, go ahead. As long as your pregnancy is proceeding normally, you can have sex as often as you like. If your uterus is in a typical position, there's no risk of hurting the baby during intercourse, because the amniotic fluid protects the baby from impact. Plus, because there's a mucus plug that blocks the cervix during pregnancy, there's virtually no chance of unintended contact between what's inside of you for 9 months and what may be inside of you for only 9 minutes.

That said, we know that the standard missionary position, with your partner on top, is likely the least comfortable as your belly gets larger.

There are uncommon cases in which you shouldn't have sex, and your doc will guide you. He or she may recommend that you refrain from sex if you're at risk for preterm labor, you're leaking amniotic fluid, your cervix begins to open prematurely, or you have placenta previa.

And if you don't want to have sex, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. (Men, read that again.) Perfectly fine. We do recommend that you focus on finding other ways to physically, and thus emotionally, bond with your partner. (Men, read that again.) If the sex comes, fine. But if not, you've still made sure to connect on deeper levels and avoid feeling like the ol' spark is gone and your relationship is losing a bit of mojo.

Dr. Kimberly D. McCulloch, MD
OBGYN (Obstetrician & Gynecologist)

Many patients ask whether or not they can remain sexually active during their pregnancy, and for most people the answer is yes. Some women find that it is more uncomfortable during pregnancy, so that could limit sexual activity. But if there are no complications of the pregnancy, such as preterm labor or bleeding problems, then most of the time intercourse can be continued normally.

Dr. Hilda Y. Hutcherson, MD
OBGYN (Obstetrician & Gynecologist)

Sex is perfectly safe for most couples. Your developing baby is shielded by the strong muscles of the uterus, as well as by the amniotic sac and fluid. The thick mucus plug that blocks the cervix during pregnancy adds another layer of protection. And I’m sorry to break it to you guys, your penis isn’t large enough to do any damage.

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Unless your doctor tells you otherwise, sex is safe. You may find that your interest in sex changes during pregnancy. Talk to your partner about other positions if the way you usually have sex is awkward or no longer feels good. Call your doctor if sex causes:

  • Pain
  • Vaginal bleeding
  • Fluid leakage

This answer is based on source information from the National Women's Health Information Center.

In most cases, sexual intercourse is safe during a normal pregnancy. Sexual intercourse is not a cause of miscarriage, stillbirth, or premature labor in a healthy pregnancy. Women with placenta previa, cervical incompetence, a history of miscarriage, multiple fetuses, unexplained bleeding or cramping, or other risk factors may be advised to avoid sexual activity.

Generally, having sex during pregnancy is safe. There are certain pregnancy complications that may be worsened by intercourse or orgasm during pregnancy. It is not uncommon to have some uterine contractions during or after intercourse, but typically these resolve quickly.

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