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Why should my partner avoid pornography if he has delayed ejaculation?

Madeleine M. Castellanos, MD
Psychiatry
Put away the porn if your partner has delayed ejaculation (DE) -- consistent trouble achieving orgasm and ejaculating. If you think too much porn could be crimping his sex-style, it may be time to take a break from porn and focus on real sex. Porn can create unrealistic sexpectations: It gets guys accustomed to high levels of novelty and stimulation, which aren't always realistic in everyday life -- threesomes, on-demand anal, or sex on top of a Ferrari, anyone?

This disparity can cause problems if he's used to climaxing from fantasy more than from reality. Plus, the stress caused by feeling like he has to "measure up" to porn stars (both figuratively and literally) can lead to performance anxiety and, in turn, DE. We're not saying he has to turn off the porn forever, but a taking break for several weeks can help him determine if it's triggering his DE -- and can give him a chance to get his mojo back.

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