Advertisement
question

Why should my partner avoid pornography if he has delayed ejaculation?

Madeleine M. Castellanos, MD
Madeleine M. Castellanos, MD on behalf of Good In Bed
Psychiatry
answer
Put away the porn if your partner has delayed ejaculation (DE) -- consistent trouble achieving orgasm and ejaculating. If you think too much porn could be crimping his sex-style, it may be time to take a break from porn and focus on real sex. Porn can create unrealistic sexpectations: It gets guys accustomed to high levels of novelty and stimulation, which aren't always realistic in everyday life -- threesomes, on-demand anal, or sex on top of a Ferrari, anyone?

This disparity can cause problems if he's used to climaxing from fantasy more than from reality. Plus, the stress caused by feeling like he has to "measure up" to porn stars (both figuratively and literally) can lead to performance anxiety and, in turn, DE. We're not saying he has to turn off the porn forever, but a taking break for several weeks can help him determine if it's triggering his DE -- and can give him a chance to get his mojo back.

Continue Learning about Achieving Orgasm

Can I give myself an orgasm?
Can I give myself an orgasm? For many people, masturbation is a good way to discover what feels good...
More Answers
What medications can cause delayed ejaculation?
What medications can cause delayed ejaculation? Medications, such as antidepressants, can have delay...
More Answers
Why is orgasm hard to achieve early in a relationship?
Learn more from our experts about why orgasm is hard to achieve early in a relationship.
More Answers
As a man, how can I help my partner reach orgasm?
As a man, how can I help my partner reach orgasm? Sex isn't necessarily better when it's longer. Lea...
More Answers

Important: This content reflects information from various individuals and organizations and may offer alternative or opposing points of view. It should not be used for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. As always, you should consult with your healthcare provider about your specific health needs.