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Why do people cry after orgasm?

Emily Nagoski
Emily Nagoski on behalf of Good In Bed
Psychology
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People cry with orgasms for lots of reasons, and not just with their first. Deeply loving orgasms -- orgasms that have involved a lot of build up, orgasms that function as a stress reliever, barbiturate, or sedative, or orgasms that you feel ambivalent about -- are all examples of orgasms in the context of emotional intensity, and they’re all potential sources of post-orgasm weeping.

See, crying is about intensity, not valence. It doesn’t matter what you feel, it’s how much you feel. People weep with joy as well as with sorrow. It’s simply the release of intense emotions. Orgasm too is the release of intense emotion -- indeed, orgasm research often characterized in the psychology literature as emotion research.

Of course it’s crucial to check in with the person and listen carefully and empathically, to see if they’re in distress and need help, but if they’re just letting go of some intensity, it’s a super opportunity to bond.

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