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What should I do if my partner doesn't want sex but still masturbates?

Emily Nagoski
Emily Nagoski on behalf of Good In Bed
Psychology
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Both women and men may want to masturbate but not want sex because having interest in sex is not the same as having interest in having an orgasm. The nice thing about masturbation or a vibrator is that it can provide a quick, easy, complication-free orgasm.

Separate the masturbation from the lack of sex -- I really believe they’re not related. It’s just not in the same category as sex with you.

Talk to him or her about finding a way back to a sexual connection with you. What works for many couples is agreeing to non-sexual touching a few nights a week. Women are more likely to feel interested in sex after foreplay has started.

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