What should I do if my partner doesn't want sex but still masturbates?

Emily Nagoski on behalf of Good In Bed

Psychology

Both women and men may want to masturbate but not want sex because having interest in sex is not the same as having interest in having an orgasm. The nice thing about masturbation or a vibrator is that it can provide a quick, easy, complication-free orgasm.

Separate the masturbation from the lack of sex -- I really believe they’re not related. It’s just not in the same category as sex with you.

Talk to him or her about finding a way back to a sexual connection with you. What works for many couples is agreeing to non-sexual touching a few nights a week. Women are more likely to feel interested in sex after foreplay has started.

Continue Learning about Sex and Relationships

Life After Mastectomy: Sex, Self-Image and Strategies for Coping

A woman’s breasts are one obvious sign of femininity and can be a source of great sexual pleasure for her and her partner. But when a woman is diagnos...

Bonnie Lynn Wright, PhD

A healthy, nutritionally sound diet supports a healthy mind and a healthy body that support a health...

Two medications have been approved to treat female sexual dysfunction—but do they really work?

Important: This content reflects information from various individuals and organizations and may offer alternative or opposing points of view. It should not be used for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. As always, you should consult with your healthcare provider about your specific health needs.