Why finding your tribe could mean letting people go
Actor Courtney B. Vance and Dr. Robin talk about the importance of building a close-knit support system and why “letting go” of people and things that don’t serve you can be very beneficial to your mental health.
Transcript
Some people, you got to love from a distance. And some people, you got to love them right out the door. [MUSIC PLAYING]
How do we navigate and move in the world? And how do we take our mask off, and where do we do it?
And one of the things that we talk about in the book-- and Courtney, you and I talk about personally--
is that we have to have a tribe. The whole world is not going to embrace us.
First of all, it doesn't deserve our sacred stories. That's number one. And even if they want to know it, the truth of the matter
is, we must find and create a tribe, a small tribe of people
who we can tell our whole stories to. Everybody doesn't need to be in your inner circle.
You can't take everybody with you. You can't-- everybody's not going to be able to-- everybody-- you can't travel with everybody.
And that's a lesson that-- a life lesson. My wife and I always say, there's
some things they're going to learn. They're going to get in the house. But there's some things they don't get out in your world. And hopefully, those lessons don't take them down a pathway
that they can't recover from. And I think what you're also saying is that some relationships are a lifetime,
but we need to check the expiration date. We need to check, just like we do on medication and on food,
there are relationships. And that can even be with immediate family. If someone isn't good for us, it doesn't
mean we hate them or they hate us, but there is a journey of deciding
who it is that belongs around our table, in our ear. COURTNEY VANCE: None of this is a quick fix.
It doesn't start at all. It just gets worse if we don't talk about it. [AUDIO LOGO]
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