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What can I do to make my marriage happier?

Kristin Zeising, PsyD
Sexual Health
There are many things you have control over that can help improve your marriage and create more happiness. First, focus on the things that you find your partner is doing right and comment on them. This reinforces the behavior, and will likely make them feel good about themselves because they are pleasing the one they love.

Second, make sure you spend time nurturing the relationship with your partner by having date nights and time for fun. Life can become overwhelming and stressful with work responsibilities, running the household, and other obligations. We often don't allow time for fun and play like we did when we were younger, and it’s important as a stress reliever and intimacy builder. So carve out time like you would for any other important obligation to keep the positive energy growing.

Finally, write down a list of the behaviors that make you feel loved and have your partner do the same. Exchange the lists so that now it’s not a guessing game as to what your needs are and you can both be successful in showing love and appreciation.
Dr. Michael Roizen, MD
Internal Medicine
Here are a few tips for helping to make your marriage happier:
  • Spend lots of time alone together. Make time to do things as a couple, not just as a family. It's crucial for rekindling love and affection.
  • When things get tense, tap your sense of humor. Conflicts are inevitable in any marriage, but if you remember to laugh about them, it helps you work through the tension and reconnect.
  • Talk in bed. You might think that's the second-best thing you can do there. But just talking every night in that quiet, intimate setting allows you to bond even more deeply. And it tends to lead to that second-best thing.

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Important: This content reflects information from various individuals and organizations and may offer alternative or opposing points of view. It should not be used for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. As always, you should consult with your healthcare provider about your specific health needs.