Why do women feel defined by their looks?

For women, life can often seem like a beauty pageant. Throughout every phase of our lives, from childhood to maturity, our appearance is judged and critiqued. Our looks are compared to those of our peers, our sisters, the women in the media, or imaginary ideals. We?re rated pretty, ugly, plain?or just plain average. No one has ever asked us if we want to compete in this lifelong beauty contest. Being born female automatically makes us contestants, whether we like it or not. From the moment we are a pretty little girl in a cute dress, and our brother is a big, strong boy who is smart, we learn what society expects from us. We internalize the message that as women, we are defined by our looks, not by our actions, character, or brainpower.

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