How can premature ejaculation affect my relationships?
As many as one in three men suffer from premature ejaculation. In this video, sex therapist Ian Kerner suggests ways for coping with this distressing problem.
Transcript
More than one out of three men suffer from premature ejaculation. That's more men than suffer from erectile disorder.
But we don't have a little blue pill yet to treat premature ejaculation.
Well, premature ejaculation can have a big effect on relationships, mainly because it causes men
such relationship distress. A guy with premature ejaculation has a lot of anxiety about it.
He worries about it. We live in an era where we think about sex as being intercourse,
as opposed to many paths to orgasm and pleasure. So when a guy suffers from premature ejaculation,
it really puts a lot of pressure on the way he feels about intercourse. And my heart goes out to guys with premature ejaculation.
It's an issue that I've suffered with. It's an issue that I've written about. By many estimates, more than one out of three men
suffer from premature ejaculation. That's more men than suffer from erectile disorder. But we don't have a little blue pill yet
to treat premature ejaculation. And so premature ejaculation is sort of in the closet,
whereas an issue like erectile disorder is much more out in the open.
We don't yet completely have effective ways of necessarily curing or treating premature ejaculation.
There are things that men and women can do to manage premature ejaculation.
There are some interesting topical agents and sprays that will help diminish erectile sensitivity,
penile sensitivity. And that can help a guy to last a little longer. Some men who suffer from premature ejaculation
are actually quite depressed about it. And interestingly, they may be candidates for an antidepressant such as Paxil or Prozac.
And a low dosage of those antidepressants often has the side effect of delaying orgasm.
So for a guy who suffers from premature ejaculation and is depressed about it, there might actually be a pharmaceutical approach to managing it.
I think also, the thing that men and women have to understand is that most guys who have premature ejaculation
are born with it. All of the latest science is telling us that premature ejaculation is a neurochemical issue.
It's a genetic issue. The guy with premature ejaculation has not done anything differently
in his sexual life to make him a premature ejaculator. He isn't any more selfish or unaware.
His masturbation habits are indifferent. And he just happens to have been born with this issue.
And so I think being able to talk about it with a partner, and most importantly, being able to develop
what I would call sex scripts, ways of getting to mutual pleasure that don't place so much emphasis on intercourse, are paramount.
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