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Are You a Good Friend?

How healthy are your friendships? Take this quiz to find out.

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Are You a Good Friend?
Are You a Good Friend?
Question 1 of 20 Correct

Arguments between friends are…

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The correct answer is: The ups and downs of a friendship are important for growing and developing both the relationship and yourselves as individuals. The learning you do together is ultimately what will make a friendship flourish for the long haul.

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Question 2 of 20 Correct

Which of the following statements is true?

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The correct answer is: The answer is both of the above. Friends can put pressure on one another to look or dress a certain way. If your group of friends is constantly focused on gaining weight, you may be sharing negative messages about body image. And if a friendship revolves around eating or cooking, you and your friends may be putting on the pounds. On the other hand, friends can do a great job of motivating one another to lose weight in a healthy way.

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Question 3 of 20 Correct

Who has a harder time being "just friends"?

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The correct answer is: New research suggests that men have a particularly hard time being "just friends" with women. In a recent study, women seemed to genuinely believe that their opposite-sex friendships were platonic, while men seemed to want something more from the relationship.

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Question 4 of 20 Correct

True or false: Every successful friendship should have a dominant friend and a subordinate friend.

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The correct answer is: This is false. There may be times when one friend is giving more than the other, but for a friendship to stand the test of time, both friends should expect to rely on each other equally and share a sense of reciprocity.

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Question 5 of 20 Correct

When trying to strike up a friendship with a new person, you notice she seems rather cool toward you. What should you do?

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The correct answer is: The fact is, not everyone is meant to be friends. If you're trying to ignite a friendship with a person who doesn't seem interested in it, give it your best shot, but be willing to admit it may be time to leave things where they lie and move on.

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Question 6 of 20 Correct

A friend makes a comment that hurts your feelings. What should you do?

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The correct answer is: If a friend hurts your feelings or says something to upset you, let her know. She can't read your mind, so if you have something to say, say it. If your friendship is healthy, the two of you should be able to resolve the issue and move past it quickly.

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Question 7 of 20 Correct

Everyone is trying to keep up with the Joneses, even on social media. Which of these status updates is an example of a social-networking no-no: a humble brag?

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The correct answer is: Ah, the humble brag: when someone says something that subtly expresses how amazing her life is, but couches it in self-effacing humor. In this example, a friend is sharing that she's on an exotic vacation, sailing in Belize, but she undercuts the brag by mentioning her sunburn. Be don't get huffy with her. Instead, be understanding and don't take it too seriously when friends make these types of comments. We've all done it, and we've all seen people do it.

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Question 8 of 20 Correct

A friend's frequent, braggy status updates are aggravating you. What's the best way to handle her?

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The correct answer is: Hit "hide" and be happy. She'll never know you did it, and you'll get the relief you want. If you want to catch up with her, go to her page to see what's going on. Unhide her if and when you think you can tolerate the updates again.

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Question 9 of 20 Correct

True or false: When it comes to making friends, a first impression is always the best impression.

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The correct answer is: This is false. Almost everyone deserves at least a second shot to make an impression. If you avoid snap judgments and instead spend some time getting to know a new person, you may realize you have more in common or get along better than you initially thought.

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Question 10 of 20 Correct

You're suspicious that a friend has an eating disorder. What do you do?

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The correct answer is: A good friend won't avoid the issue. Vicki Berkus, PhD suggests using "I" statements to describe the behavior you're seeing. You can say, "When I see your weight dropping, I feel concerned." If your friend is open to talking about it, offer to help her get help from a counselor or her family. If she isn't willing to get help, and you fear she may starve or hurt herself, go to her family. Your friend may be angry at first, but soon she'll realize that she may not be able to make good decisions for herself right now.

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Question 11 of 20 Correct

How much does your risk of becoming obese increase if your friend is obese?

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The correct answer is: Clothes aren't the only thing best friends share -- they also share a likelihood to be overweight. If your friend is gaining weight and becoming overweight, your risk increases nearly 60%. Fight the battle of the bulge together.

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Question 12 of 20 Correct

Your friend is grieving the end of a relationship. You should…

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The correct answer is: Most of the time when people grieve, whether over the loss of a parent or pet, the end of a career or relationship, they just want someone who will listen. Be that person for her, and don't be too quick to offer advice. It's an understanding mind that is typically most wanted.

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Question 13 of 20 Correct

Which of these activities can boost both your brain and your friendships?

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The correct answer is: Start a book club with your friends and get a healthy double dose of brain and emotional stimulation. Staying mentally active with your friends can help you reduce stress, feel happier and keep your brain sharp.

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Question 14 of 20 Correct

In which way can Facebook aid your relationships?

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The correct answer is: Don't discount the value of Facebook as a genuine friendship tool. A series of status updates and communication with Facebook friends can make you feel more connected. An added bonus? Some research suggests that disclosing information about yourself signals pleasurable effects on the brain.

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Question 15 of 20 Correct

Your friend is grieving the loss of a loved one. What is the best thing to say when you're at a loss for words?

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The correct answer is: When you're at a loss for words, it's frankly best to say so. Anything you do say will rarely be enough to turn the grieving around anyway, so be honest with your friend, then let her know that you are there for her.

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Question 16 of 20 Correct

When a friend is grieving or sick, how can you best help her?

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The correct answer is: Pitching in with everyday tasks like grocery shopping, picking up the kids from school, cleaning the kitchen, or bringing dinner by is always helpful when a friend is grieving or sick. Ask yourself this question: If I were in her shoes, what would I want my friends to do? Then do those things.

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Question 17 of 20 Correct

Which of these activities can help you and your friends strengthen your immune systems together?

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The correct answer is: All of the above are activities you and your friends can do together to strengthen your immune systems. But it's not the type of event that provides the boost; it's the feeling of connectedness to other people, which can lower blood pressure and weight, strengthen healthy habits, and yes, boost your immune system.

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Question 18 of 20 Correct

You're always doing for others. Why is it good for your friendships to focus on yourself some, too?

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The correct answer is: Friendships take balance, and if you're doing all the work, you're going to burn out. Step away and do something nice for yourself from time to time. In the end, your relationships will benefit.

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Question 19 of 20 Correct

A friend is always bringing others down with her negativity. What should you do?

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The correct answer is: Constant negative interactions with friends and family members can be just as stressful as major life events. To combat a friend's negativity, try to steer her away from conversation topics that will bring others down -- and tell her you like to stay positive. If things don't get any better, limit your time with this friend. You'll benefit, and so will others.

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Question 20 of 20 Correct

Every time you're with your friend, she talks excessively about what's wrong with her life. You should…

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The correct answer is: Someone else's sour mood won't do anything to improve your own. If the negativity never seems to end, repeat back to your friend what she's saying about feeling powerless. Hearing it come from another person may help her process it. If that doesn't work, set boundaries and time limits. Know what you will and won't talk about and for how long. Lastly, if her mood still seems stuck in the mud, be honest with her and suggest she see a therapist.

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Relationships and family are at the center of human life, and they can have a huge influence on your health. Having good friendships and family support eases stress, helps you avoid mental illness, and gives you energy and courage ...

for living a healthier life. Relationships start when you give someone else your time and attention. If you find yourself isolated, the best thing to do is reach out through community activities or family connections. Finding ways to help others will make you feel better, and then pay off later when you need support. Good health means caring for yourself, which is infinitely easier to do when other people are also caring for you. If your relationships are in trouble, take steps to resolve the conflict through communication or seeking counseling. The payoff is greater well-being for all involved.
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