When you picture your golden years, which people do you imagine growing old with? Are you building the types of friendships that could last a lifetime? It turns out that meaningful, long-term friendships can do more than fend off loneliness as you age—your best pals may actually help you live longer.
The key to longevity
“When you think about it, your friends are long-term adventures, and therefore, perhaps the most significant thing you can do to add more years to your life, and life to your years,” says Dan Buettner, National Geographic Fellow and best-selling author of The Blue Zones Solution.
In his research on longevity, Buettner identifies five places in the world where people live remarkably long lives:
In these “Blue Zones,” people are 10 times more likely to make it to 100 than the average American.
So what do people in Blue Zones have in common? For one thing, they understand the importance of finding—and keeping—“the right tribe.” Your tribe is an uplifting group of friends that brings you happiness and encourages you to stay healthy over the years. In fact, people in the Blue Zone of Okinawa, Japan, become members of small groups called “moais” as young children. Each moai is made up of five people who often stay together and have each other’s backs for life. Even if the members of your moai change over time, you can depend on your group for emotional and financial support during tough times.
The health benefits of friendship
Members of moais tend to share similar healthy habits. That’s important because health habits are contagious: if your friends smoke, eat poorly or have negative outlooks on life, you’re more likely to develop their risky behaviors as well, according to the Framingham study.
The moai custom is one reason why longevity experts believe that Okinawans have one-fifth the rate of heart disease compared to Americans. They also have drastically lower rates of breast cancer, prostate cancer and dementia.
Find your Blue Zone
Where you live can play a role in deciding the number and quality of friends you’re able to make. It also can determine whether you stick to other Blue Zone practices like building exercise into your daily routine. For example, if you move to a neighborhood without safe sidewalks, you’ll have to drive instead of walking to work; you might even go years without meeting your neighbors.
That’s why the healthiest communities in America are ones that have vibrant and safe outdoor spaces where people can play, meet and exercise, according to the Gallup-Healthways Well-Being Index, which ranked 48 areas of the country by “Active Living Scores.”
So vote, volunteer and encourage your local leaders to protect the outdoor spaces in your town. Speak up for housing diversity as well: a neighborhood that includes people of all ages, backgrounds and income levels creates strong and exciting social networks and allows everyone to prosper.
Build your tribe
Regardless of where you live, there are some steps you can take to strengthen your friendships today:
Nurturing your relationships will pay off in the long run: it may help you live longer, plus your years will be filled with love and support.
Relationships and family are at the center of human life, and they can have a huge influence on your health. Having good friendships and family support eases stress, helps you avoid mental illness, and gives you energy and courage ... for living a healthier life. Relationships start when you give someone else your time and attention. If you find yourself isolated, the best thing to do is reach out through community activities or family connections. Finding ways to help others will make you feel better, and then pay off later when you need support. Good health means caring for yourself, which is infinitely easier to do when other people are also caring for you. If your relationships are in trouble, take steps to resolve the conflict through communication or seeking counseling. The payoff is greater well-being for all involved. More