Relationships and Family

Relationships and Family

Relationships and Family
Relationships and family are at the center of human life, and they can have a huge influence on your health. Having good friendships and family support eases stress, helps you avoid mental illness, and gives you energy and courage for living a healthier life. Relationships start when you give someone else your time and attention. If you find yourself isolated, the best thing to do is reach out through community activities or family connections. Finding ways to help others will make you feel better, and then pay off later when you need support. Good health means caring for yourself, which is infinitely easier to do when other people are also caring for you. If your relationships are in trouble, take steps to resolve the conflict through communication or seeking counseling. The payoff is greater well-being for all involved.

Recently Answered

  • 1 Answer
    A
    A , Cardiology (Cardiovascular Disease), answered

    Show your love. Experts recommend beginning the conversation by explaining that you love your partner and want them to take care of themselves so that they live a long and comfortable life with you. Start and end your sentences with, "I love you."

    Pick the right time and place. If you're going to address erectile dysfunction, don't have the conversation in the bedroom when you both may be feeling vulnerable. Pick a neutral time and begin by explaining that you love him for who he is and not his physical performance. If you're concerned about how many times he got up to pee during the football game, don't bring it up in front of his buddies. Wait till your home and alone. And don't talk about memory loss just as he's looking for the keys. Wait till he isn't distracted and won't feel like you are calling him out.

    Make a plan together. After you listen to his concerns about the issue, explain that you want to work on it together and that the first step may be visiting a doctor to check for underlying health problems and get treatment.

    Opening up is the first step. While a diagnosis may be scary in and of itself, remember that there are treatments, if not solutions, to all of these ailments and talking about it is the first step to feeling better.

  • 1 Answer
    A
    A , Neurology, answered
    Often, people feel anticipatory grief when they know someone they care about is seriously ill. Just as with grief after a death, family and friends may feel a multitude of different emotions, including sorrow, anxiety, anger, acceptance, depression, and denial, as they adjust to the new landscape of their lives. Depending on the type of illness and the relationship you share, you may feel closer and determined to make the time you have left count. Perhaps you are terribly anxious about what's to come or so firmly focused on last-resort treatments that you continue to push away any thoughts of the end. Possibly you long for release or feel guilty and conflicted. Although not everyone experiences anticipatory grief, all of these feelings are normal for those who do.
  • 1 Answer
    A
    A , Pediatrics, answered
    One of the newest epidemics in the world of texting is Textual Harassment, a form of harassment delivered by text message. Textual harassment and techno-stalking are a growing concern, especially because it’s so quick and easy to accomplish, and affects all ages of both women and men.

    Textual Harassment is an unfortunate reality that has developed as a result of the growth and popularity of texting, to the degree that special laws have been put in place to protect the innocent.

    The laws that define textual harassment vary from state to state, but in California a single unsolicited text message that threatens physical harm or is obscene is enough to meet the definition of textual harassment. If the text doesn’t fall into either of these categories, then the text must be sent several times in order to be considered textual harassment.

  • 1 Answer
    A
    A , Health Education, answered

    Well, they feel different. What your true self wants is clear and specific, generally unwavering and long term. When your ego - driven false self starts to whine, it's usually for something that just showed up - in an M&M advertisement for example - and you need to have it right away. If you don't acquire it immediately, you get an angry sort of desperate feeling. There is no pressure from the true desire, but if you thwart the demands of the ego, watch out, you've got a death match. Plus the appetite of the ego is insatiable. It wants the M&Ms and the late - night television show, the pack of cigarettes, the bottle of gin, and anything else that strikes its fancy. You start with a few candy - coated chocolates, and you end up passed out on the floor in a pile of ashes with an exercise infomercial droning in the background. Okay, this might be exaggerating, but there is some truth to this. How you are in anything is how you are in everything.

  • 2 Answers
    A
    A , Cardiology (Cardiovascular Disease), answered
    What Are Some Tips for Dating After Divorce?

    Dating after divorce can be overwhelming and even scary. Actress and Dr. Oz Show guest Kirstie Alley talks in this video about some of her favorite ways to get fit, flirty and ready for a relationship.


    See All 2 Answers
  • 1 Answer
    A
    A , Preventive Medicine, answered
    We live in a culture that believes that the family structure has little or no value. Yes, we pay lip service of how valuable the family is and how it is the basis for any civilized society with great values, but what have we, our corporations, or our government done to show supports for the value of a family?

    The politicians talk about family values, but keep spending money on their pork projects and other peripheral projects, instead of on what is the backbone and essence of any healthy society. We continually feel isolated, frustrated, overwhelmed with childcare, by both parents working, by lack of flexible hours in the workplace, and by lack of adequate, affordable health care for our families. Until we absolutely choose to stop this assault on the family system and demand support on levels of businesses and government, we must make the choices we can to transform our own lives so we can discover the fulfillment and happiness in a life of balance.

    Parents are so overwhelmed with guilt, worry, and exhaustion, they create poor boundaries to keep the family healthy. Parents put children first, and only if they have time later do they squeeze time in for their marriage relationship and their time alone to practice self-care..
  • 1 Answer
    A
    A , Health Education, answered

    As horrific as it sounds, the most dangerous part of living unconsciously is not our boring, predictable, rote behavior. What we do is right up there on the surface for all the world (including ourselves) to see. If we can observe our actions, then there's at least a slight possibility that we can change. The real problem arises when our thoughts become automatic and repetitive. These are significantly more difficult to isolate because they're so deeply ingrained and have become so familiar. Much of what you think is merely a routine response, having absolutely no bearing on your current situation. Acquired at some point in the past, it became a programmed reaction. Again, this is a useful tool for basic human survival on both the individual and collective levels.

    Ages ago, a caveman ate a toadstool and died. Today, pretty much everybody knows not to eat random fungi when wandering through the woods. At some point, you probably burned yourself and no longer play with matches. The ability to learn from previous experience is highly beneficial. But if you take that same type of thinking and apply it too broadly, it becomes crippling. You fail one math test in third grade, so you go through school convinced that you're bad at math. Your boyfriend dumps you, so you approach every subsequent relationship with trepidation.

    These conclusions are not necessarily true. You may be terrible at math, but you also may have just had an incompetent teacher. And even if you really are bad at math, just how bad are you? Can you balance a checkbook? Bad is a relative term. Unless you examine your beliefs, you will never know the truth and will go through life operating from assumptions that are most likely erroneous.

  • 1 Answer
    A
    A , Health Education, answered

    As we work through the endless challenges of parenting, there is no substitute for building a little tribe of family and friends around us. When I was growing up, raising children was always the task of an extended family that reached far beyond blood ties. From the time I became a mother in 1989 until my own mother’s death in 2000, she was devotedly involved in the raising of my daughters. And my sister has been like a second mother to them. Unfortunately, the extended family is now increasingly considered an Old World curiosity, like horse-drawn wagons and dinner conversation. When, as a child, I ventured onto the streets of my neighborhood in Athens, I was never far from home because I had learned from my earliest experiences that every home was open to me and any woman on the block would mother me as surely as she would her own child -- with a bandage, a spinach pie, a scolding, or a hug. It’s hard to re-create that experience in America today, but we need to conjure up its spirit.

     

    I learn a lot from talking with other mothers. It gives me perspective and the strength we get only when we’re not alone. This has become all the more important to me since my mother’s death, because being in her orbit made it much harder to cling to my fears. Now the online community we have created on the Huffington Post is a place where parents can put politics aside and share their experiences.

     

    As Huffington Post commenter MJ Reynolds writes, “Talking with other parents and sharing our stories always helps me. I find that I am more understanding of the ‘mistakes’ made by friends or relatives than of my own. Being able to sit with friends and commiserate and laugh over our child’s picky eating or refusal to wear shirts unless the neck tag is cut completely off helps me realize that we are more alike than different.”

  • 1 Answer
    A
    A , Health Education, answered

    Look for a habitual story you tell yourself that is limiting you or keeping you in a negative state. Maybe it's the tale of why you haven't been promoted or why you're always attracted to somebody with a wandering eye. Take that story and look for everywhere it's not true. (You actually were promoted four years ago, and the boy you dated when you were a sophomore in high school was utterly devoted.) Write yourself a new story that changes the way you feel about your situation. For example, if you haven't gotten that promotion, make the story about mastering your current position or about finally getting enough feedback to know it's time to switch jobs.

    Write a list of things that you would like to change. It can be anything from losing 10 lb. to remembering your friends' birthdays. Generate at least five items. Then, pick your top one and resolve to take action. Put it on a three - by - five index card and tape it to your bathroom mirror to remind you of your new commitment.

    Make another list. This time, write at least five things you can do to implement the change you selected the day before. These steps must be specific and doable. For example, "Exercise" is way too vague and "Eat only celery the whole of next week" is never going to happen. Something like "Do sit - ups, leg lifts, and biceps curls for half an hour while watching Jeopardy" is something specific you can realistically accomplish.

    Think of the reasons you have resisted change up till this point. What do you gain by staying right where you are? Be really honest with yourself. Are you avoiding the pain of failure or uncertainty? Do you enjoy knowing exactly what each day will bring and how you will respond? Once you are clear on the benefits of not changing, write down what it is costing you. Make the list as detailed and personal as you can by looking for the hidden costs in terms of relationships and self - esteem, lost opportunities, and long - term regrets. Put the plus and minus sheets next to each other and compare. When the price of stagnation becomes greater than the effort to shift behavior, you will have the motivation you need.

  • 1 Answer
    A
    A , Psychology, answered
    How can my romantic relationship affect my health?

    Your romantic relationship can affect your health in that a bad relationship can be extremely stressful and impact you negatively - and vice versa! In this video, psychologist Brenda Wade, PhD, explains how your love life can influence your health.