Many couples gradually grow apart and have to reconnect. Why? A woman marries a man because she appreciates his potential and then tries to adjust him to fulfill this potential. Conversely, a man marries a woman who is exactly what he wants, and then she goes off and changes. So in effect as soon as you fall in love, both of you start racing in different directions. Thankfully for you and any offspring, you are held together by chemical handcuffs like dopamine and oxytocin. But as their levels wane and the cuffs slip off after five to seven years, you need to continually reinvent the marriage. People who have been married for 30 years have really had four marriages. And it's also important to take these ideas to our partners.
And sometimes, we think that relationships are made or broken on the grand gestures, the big fights, the four-foot-teddy bears won at the carnival. But we could strengthen our relationships immensely with more attention to the details - -giving each other compliments, scheduling dates nights - (which can help keep the big problems from surfacing).
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