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What Are Three Parenting Personalities?

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There also are three typical parenting personalities, take us through those if you will. There are three definite personality styles that can serve or not serve you and your family well. The hyper vigilant parent is going to be the one where the child doesn't have any room to explore, they can't play on the play ground because the play ground equipment wouldn't be safe, they can't do any natural- every point of their time is scheduled right? The hyper parent has no room for flexibility, the hyper parent may have their child over scheduled from preschool and play date here and this activity there, so the kid have no time for free play, for developing that creativity as well.

The absentee parent is the opposite of and extreme they are nowhere to be found. And unfortunately in this working world, we have lots of families that have two, three jobs, parents with jobs out of town and we're all on the road, and you have to figure out what's going to be our caring parent substitute? If that's you family.

But having the parents be completely absent doesn't do the child any service either. There's also families where they combine those two and they're absent but when they're there they are hyper and that doesn't help. We want to you to aim for being kind of a go-with-the-flow parent, where you have room to have flexibility so that if the child goes for a walk in the park and wants to spend all their time looking at an ant hill, you can let them be fascinated with ants instead of having your agenda always be the one that has to be followed.

And the key is not squashing, not stepping on that ant hill. It is in fact letting them explore and going with the flow. Not scheduling that time, not disrupting it because those ants might be dirty, it's going with the flow and letting the child commune with nature in that sense.

So the ideal is the flexer[sp?] family which is go with the flow. Exactly and that way you're responding to the pings from the child. You're getting a chance to follow their natural passions as well, so that even if your agenda is to make them really interested in balls but the kid is more interested in drawing, you can actually help them figure out, how can I do a little bit of this drawing and make that fun too.