The Importance of Social Support for Depression Caregivers

Being a good caregiver to a loved one with major depression starts with taking care of yourself.

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Updated on April 19, 2023.

Caring for a loved one or friend with major depression (also called clinical depression, major depressive disorder, or MDD), can be rewarding. But being a caregiver comes with risks to your own health, including stress, anxiety, and even depression.

Since caregivers are so focused on tending to the patient with major depression, it's easy for them to overlook their own needs, says Christina Irving, clinical services director and family consultant for the Family Caregiver Alliance.

"They might say, 'I'm happy' or 'I'm OK,' when they're the ones who need help," Irving says. "A lot of the time they're not thinking about how they're doing."

The most important step when you're a caregiver, Irving says, is to acknowledge that you have needs, too. Recognizing this will help you and the person you're caring for.

"If you don't care for yourself, it makes what you're doing even harder each and every day," Irving says.

Don’t forget self-care

Taking care of yourself means scheduling regular breaks to participate in activities you enjoy, including exercise, which can boost your daytime energy and help you sleep better. You should also plan a visit with a healthcare provider to evaluate your overall health. A caregivers' support group or even one-on-one counseling can help you cope with the stress of caregiving.

As a caregiver of someone who suffers from major depression, it's easy to become isolated or to experience caregiver burnout, so let friends and family lend a hand. Irving notes that caregivers don't always know how to ask for help or what kind of help to ask for. Valuable help can be as simple as asking a family member to stay with the depression patient so you can run errands, such as picking up groceries, attending a support group, or working out at the gym. Social support can also come in the form of asking friends to bring dinner or to pick up items you need while they're out.

Seek help when you need it

If you have the resources, consider hiring a professional caregiver to handle some of the day-to-day responsibilities—even for just an occasional afternoon—to give you back a little time and energy. There are apps and services that can connect you with professional caregivers. (CareLinx by Sharecare is one example.)

Be realistic about how much you can do. "It's okay to set boundaries and to say 'no,'" Irving says. "It doesn't mean you're not doing a good job as a caregiver."

If the stress of caregiving occasionally makes you blue or angry, that's normal, Irving says. "You're going to get upset sometimes," she says. "It just means you need more support and more help."

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