The Emotional Side of Sexual Dysfunction
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The Emotional Side of Sexual Dysfunction

There’s no doubt that sex and emotions are inseparable. For starters, your mental state has a lot to do with your interest in sex. You probably know how hard it can be to get in the mood with a big work deadline on your mind, or after having a fight with your partner, for example. On the other hand, if sexual dysfunction is keeping you from enjoying sex, that can take a big toll on your emotions, as well—and also your partner’s.

Feelings Can Get Pushed Into the Fray
Sexual dysfunction encompasses a range of issues for both men and women. It can include problems with desire, arousal, orgasm, sexual pain disorders and more. These problems can appear at nearly any point in a person's life, either suddenly or over time. They can be the result of a health condition (like heart disease or diabetes), or they can be associated with harmful lifestyle choices like substance abuse. They might even not have any clear cause at all. It's important to note that while a person may struggle with the physical issues of their sexual dysfunction, dealing with the psychological impact of why they can't enjoy sex is a whole different story. Frustration, anxiety, depression, loss of self-esteem, anger -- all are examples of emotions that both partners may (and often do) feel as a result of sexual dysfunction.

Take, for example, the results of one study from the University of Zurich. Researchers polled over 1,500 women from Mexico, Italy and South Korea, the majority of whom said that a satisfying sex life doesn't just rely on the physical act of sex, but also things like kissing, touching and other kinds of sexual stimulation. The women also expressed that when it was time to engage in sex and their partner was too preoccupied with premature ejaculation or reaching orgasm in general, it left little to no room for their own needs, wants and desires. This led the women to feel frustrated, lose interest in sex, and in some cases, resulted in a break-up down the line.

Address Any Kind of Sexual Dysfunction Right Away
When you're at a crossroads of what to do about your sexual dysfunction, it's important to take a step back and look at the big picture. This is where you've got to ask yourself the tough questions, like:

  • Is it affecting other areas of my life?
  • How does my partner feel about it?
  • Has it impacted my relationship with others in the past?
  • Is it the reason why I don't feel good about myself?
  • What are my options to do something about it?

The good news is that you do have options, and your first step should be discussing what they are with your doctor. Once you've put that effort into play, you can be confident that you're on the right path to regaining control of your sex life and the emotions that are often inseparable from it.