How does my behavior affect my child?

Charles J. Sophy, MD
Adolescent Medicine
You are the primary influencer in your child’s life.  Your behavior does significantly affect your child by his/her exposure to the way you communicate your values, thoughts, emotions, attitudes, actions, choices, decisions, and expectations.  Values are mostly “caught” and not simply “taught” only; your child will quickly emulate your behavior, good or bad.
Dr. Michael Roizen, MD
Internal Medicine
Everything you do -- and we mean everything -- is observed and processed by your child. She’s like a human recording device. Your child takes all of that info and figures, “Hey, that’s the way I’m supposed to act!”  Most of the messages that kids receive don’t come from what you tell them but from all the nonverbal cues that accompany the actual words: your tone of voice, your body language, the gestures you use. If you want your child to eat healthfully, telling her to eat sautéed cauliflower while you order fried onion rings isn’t gonna work. If you want her to have healthy friendships, make sure she sees you resolving conflicts in a respectful way.
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