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What is a healthy father/daughter relationship?

A female child's relationship with her father sets the foundation of all future relationships with the men that will populate her life. If her father was caring, kind and supportive, she will seek similar types of males to have healthy and fulfilling relationships with. If he was critical, emotionally unavailable, or under minding, those are the unhealthy type of men she will find herself naturally attracted to.

In his groundbreaking book, How to get the Love You Want, by Dr. Harville Hendricks, PhD, he describes the Imago. The Imago is what we project onto the person we are attracted to, that being (1) the projected mother (2) projected father and (3) the projected self. The projected self seeks out individuals who possess the experience or qualities we want to have in ourselves, but may not possess. If we seek success or education and do not have that experience we will be drawn towards and individual who does.

That coupled with the familiar behavior of our fathers (or mothers) she will project that she have found the ideal mate, companion, partner, or friend in this familiar and comfortable repetition of how she have grown up or what she has been conditioned to accept as normal male behavior - and subsequently what she can and should expect in how she will be treated by the males in her life.

The relationship a female has with her father is a profoundly unique one that is deeply imprinted in her psyche for her whole lifetime. Even for women who have gone on to achieve much success, great wealth and accolades, her desire for her father's love and attention will last throughout her lifetime. Her drive to get that love and attention can take on many forms of behavior and many types of relationships.

Fathers are the first and often the most impressive male love relationship a female will have in her lifetime. This is why there needs to be more awareness and education for fathers regarding how they might relate to their daughters - and how much his daughter needs his kind attention and dependable love and support. A positive father- daughter relationship is a great foundation for any female to begin her life with.

 

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A healthy father/daughter relationship is a mutually respectful, open and honest, communicative, honoring and trusting relationship whereby the daughter is confident in her father’s enduring love, acceptance and belief in her ability to choose despite any mistakes made.

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