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How can I develop secure attachments with my children?

Lynne Kenney
Psychology
Here's how you can develop secure attachments with your children:

1. Be consistent with your children.

2. Be attuned to their individual needs.

3. Respond to your children by getting off the couch, computer or phone and going to them. Proximity matters when you are communicating with your children.

4. Take your child’s concerns seriously. This means acknowledging their feelings. Do not mock or tease your children. Sarcasm is painful and it cuts deeply.

5. Match your child’s exuberance and excitement by sharing whole-heartedly in their joy.

6. Give your children your undivided attention in the moments they need you.

Parents who encourage secure attachments are attuned to their children’s needs. They read their children’s cues and respond to each child as a unique individual.
Charles J. Sophy, MD
Adolescent Medicine

You can develop secure attachments with your children by establishing a strong relationship that is marked by…

·        consistent parenting

·        appropriate expectations

·        proper coaching

·        clear and open communication

·        secure structure

·        sensitivity and attunement to their cues, thoughts, and emotions

·        instilled trust

·        undivided attention

·        constancy

·        safety and stability

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