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Why do people get angry when they're grieving?

People who are grieving express anger in many ways and for many different reasons. It may appear as envy, bitterness, impatience, simmering resentment, explosive rage, or puzzlement over the unfairness of it all. Some people feel more comfortable getting angry than crying. Children who are grieving may express their feelings through frequent tantrums or irritability.

One problem with anger is that it often gets directed at everything but its true object. Family, doctors, God, and entirely unrelated people or organizations may bear the brunt of this emotion. Grieving people sometimes find that their anger bubbles over unexpectedly, pushing others away at times when their support could be helpful. Sometimes anger serves to hide other emotions—it's a secondary emotion masking the primary one.

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