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What are the benefits of the grieving process?

There comes a time in the process of grief when grieving no longer means dwelling on the emptiness of loss. After a period of grieving and honoring the stages of grief, the emptiness of loss becomes an opening into the fullness of all that was and in some mystical sense still is. The stages between feeling the emptiness and the fullness of loss can take months, years, or decades, depending on the individual. But the time spent grieving is not wasted. Grieving is like polishing rare stones and jewels. The process of going over and over the memories creates a rare and beautiful jewel, the true beauty of which had not been previously realized. There are lessons here for the life you are living now.

Part of grieving is reflecting on what seemed like ordinary moments and realizing how essentially meaningful those moments were. Whether they are memories of simple meals shared or singing silly songs together, in the face of loss you realize that these were among the most significant moments of your life.

These realizations can affect your current day-to-day life. Each encounter in your present life can now be seen as a diamond in the rough. You no longer need to wait until the tragedy of loss occurs to see the intensity and light of the present moment. After many rounds of intense grieving, you may see that previously mundane, unremarkable moments can become transformed into events of momentous splendor. You may become determined not to miss such momentous events in the present unfolding of your life. Grieving trains you to liberate the splendor possible in each moment.

With this training and knowledge, you will be able to bring that intense presence into your current relationships.
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