What Kind of Spouse Are You?
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What Kind of Spouse Are You?

Laid-back? Nagging? Take this quiz to see where you stand as a spouse and if you know how to strengthen your relationship.

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Question 1 of 20 Correct

A truly healthy relationship is one in which…

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The correct answer is: Every healthy relationship has its ups and downs. The goal should be to move through those changes with your partner, focusing on improvement, so you're always working together to strengthen your relationship.

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Question 2 of 20 Correct

What's the spark that keeps a marriage alive?

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The correct answer is: Keep the spark of your relationship alive by staying attracted to each other. That means looking attractive and feeling attractive, and making your spouse feel the same. Tell your partner how much you love her and compliment her frequently, and she'll do the same for you.

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Question 3 of 20 Correct

Which of these scenarios raises the odds of big misunderstandings?

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The correct answer is: Talking on the phone with your significant other while you barrel down the highway doesn't just make you a road risk -- it also raises the odds of big misunderstandings. That's because it's too easy to talk to each other in ways you never would face-to-face. You know, sudden silences when you miss a sign ("Are you there?!"). yelling ("Talk Louder"). Disappearing ("Oops, there's my exit!" Click.). Any or all can make your spouse irritated, hurt and tense.

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Question 4 of 20 Correct

You think your husband should spend more time with the kids. Instead of nagging him, what should you do?

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The correct answer is: Try spending more time with the kids yourself. Being the change you want to see often works better than nagging does. Your husband may notice your increased involvement and want to up his game, too.

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Question 5 of 20 Correct

Women tend to feel more satisfied with their relationships when their spouses understand and react to their…

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The correct answer is: According to research from Harvard University, women feel more satisfied when their husbands sense negative emotions and react with empathy and concern. This lets women know their husbands are emotionally invested in the relationship.

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Husbands tend to feel more satisfied with their relationships when they detect which type of emotion in their wives?

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The correct answer is: Women feel most satisfied with their relationship when their husbands recognize and respond to their negative emotions, but a man feels most satisfied when he can read his partner's positive emotions. in other words, men feel most satisfied and secure when they can tell their wives are happy or excited.

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Question 7 of 20 Correct

What must you do to be an effective listener for your partner?

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The correct answer is: To truly listen means not focusing on your own agenda. True listening requires that you be present in the moment. Try not to get distracted by your own thoughts and opinions, and instead really take in what your spouse is saying.

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For every critical statement you make to your spouse, how many positive ones should you make?

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The correct answer is: Keep your ratio of positive to negative comments to at least 5 to 1, even when you're arguing. It's not always easy to be nice, but pushing yourself to be kind can help strengthen the bond between you and your partner -- and make it easier to work through the tough stuff.

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Question 9 of 20 Correct

If your husband complains that you spend too much time at work, what could be his real concern?

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The correct answer is: Sometimes the real message of a disagreement is hidden. If your husband complains that you're spending too much time at work, he may be really trying to say that he misses you.

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Question 10 of 20 Correct

What can one bad argument with your spouse do to your health?

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The correct answer is: Even a single bad argument can raise your blood pressure sharply, putting your health on the line.

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Question 11 of 20 Correct

Which of the following things does a happy couple do?

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The correct answer is: All of the above. Happy couples talk to each other every night before they fall asleep, which lets them catch up, make plans and discuss problems in a quiet tender setting. They also go on double dates. Bonding with other couples strengthens their own relationship, reinforces their sense of togetherness and makes them feel closer to each other. Happy couples also skip the small talk. Researchers report that the happiest couples have twice as many deep conversations and far fewer superficial ones as the unhappiest of couples.

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Question 12 of 20 Correct

Which of these is the most important aspect of talking with your partner?

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The correct answer is: Honest communication is a tough job! It requires both effectively articulating your own needs and consciously listening to your partner's needs.

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Question 13 of 20 Correct

Staying in an unhappy marriage increases your risk of developing major depression by how much?

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The correct answer is: Couples in an unhappy marriage are 25 times more likely to develop major depression than those in a happy marriage. And if you have suffered a heart attack, a bad marriage could increase your risk for a second attack. It can also cripple your recovery from cancer and weaken your immune system.

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Question 14 of 20 Correct

How can smoking affect a marriage?

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The correct answer is: Cigarettes may kill your sex life before they kill you. Substances found in smoke affect blood flow, which can lead to erectile dysfunction (ED). In fact, smokers are two times more likely to develop ED than non-smokers.

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Question 15 of 20 Correct

What aspect of your Facebook profile can suggest if your marriage will last?

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The correct answer is: It may sound silly, but recent research suggests that the more intense the smile, the less likely you are to get divorced. There's no heavy-duty neuroscience behind the theory yet, but researchers suspect that this "positive emotionality" leads people to be more open to social relationships, seek environments more conducive to happy marriages, and be better able to "undo" negative emotions.

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Question 16 of 20 Correct

True or false: Second only to sex, which of these things helps improve intimacy best?

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The correct answer is: Sex and pillow talk can both boost intimacy. Communicating with each other in this way can help the two of you connect on a more intimate, personal level.

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Question 17 of 20 Correct

At a minimum, how often should couples have sex?

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The correct answer is: Couples should have sex at least once a week, experts say. Sex once or twice a week has health benefits, increasing your immunity by 30 percent. Plus, having sex releases feel-good hormones that relieve stress and help partners bond.

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Question 18 of 20 Correct

How many hours should you aim to spend with your partner one-on-one each week?

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The correct answer is: Between shuttling kids to activities, doing laundry and mowing the yard, most couples only get one hour of together time each week. (Compare that to couples having an affair, who average 15 hours each week.) Aim to spend at least eight hours alone togher each week. A little pillow talk at night is a great way to sneak in this together-time.

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Question 19 of 20 Correct

If you're not satisfied with your sex life with your partner, what should you do?

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The correct answer is: Tell your partner how you feel and truly listen to his response. Then work together to make changes. Try focusing on the positive things about your relationship -- doing this can ofen boost your sex drive naturally. Don't be afraid to seek professional help if things don't get better.

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What's the secret behind the happiest couples?

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The correct answer is: The happiest couples are kind to one another. They are considerate of one another, offering to help with dishes, give a back rub or run an errand. Being with someone who's willing to do nice things for you builds loving feelings, which bolsters the relationship.

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