What is healthy self esteem?

Paul  Hokemeyer, PhD
Marriage & Family Therapy

Healthy self esteem is a function of how much we like and accept ourselves for being exactly who we are in the present moment. It involves an evaluation of our selves in a the following three realms: 

  1. Confidence in our ability to guide our lives towards meaningful goals,
  2. Faithfulness to our values and desires in spite of other people’s opinions of us; and,
  3. An acceptance of how we present and how we look without projecting arrogance or superiority. 

On its most basic level, possessing a healthy self-esteem means valuing both our strengths and weaknesses. We don’t beat ourselves up for being imperfect, but rather look at our imperfections as the traits that make us loveable human beings and an opportunity to grow towards physical, spiritual, intellectual and emotional wholeness. 

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Emotional Health

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Important: This content reflects information from various individuals and organizations and may offer alternative or opposing points of view. It should not be used for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. As always, you should consult with your healthcare provider about your specific health needs.