Having Trouble Dealing With the Pandemic? It’s Okay to Laugh

Humor can relieve stress and help us cope—but when and how you joke about tragedy makes a difference.

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Medically reviewed in April 2022

Updated on April 16, 2020

The novel coronavirus, it’s become clear, is nothing to laugh at. As the COVID-19 pandemic spreads across the United States and the death count rises, news about the virus has become increasingly grim. At such a serious time, it may feel like the appropriate thing is to put on a somber face, buckle down and get through it.

But still, humor persists. Late night hosts keep telling jokes (albeit to empty rooms), comedy films and sitcoms keep attracting viewers, and funny memes—many about the coronavirus itself—keep making the rounds on social media. In fact, it could be argued that we need laughter now more than ever.

So which impulse is the “right” one: The one that prompts us to laugh in the face of tragedy, or the one that sobers us up and keeps us from joking?

The answer, experts say, is that both feelings are natural—and both are necessary to make it through trying times. Here’s what to keep in mind as we navigate the complex relationship between humor and tragedy.

The health benefits of laughter 
Laughter can be good for us any time, but its health benefits may be especially important during periods of uncertainty. Chronic stress can contribute to harmful inflammation and weakened immune function, but studies suggest that laughing may reduce levels of stress hormones and bolster the immune system.

A good giggle can also have immediate effects: It can boost blood vessel functioning, act as a natural painkiller, improve circulation and relax tense muscles. In a 2017 study published in the Journal of Neuroscience, laughing with close friends triggered the production of endorphins—or feel-good chemicals in the brain—along with feelings of pleasure and calmness.

Those chemical changes may even help explain why laughter helps humans bond and form relationships, the study authors proposed. Right now, at a time when social distancing and self-isolation is mandated, anything that helps people connect emotionally (if not physically) feels especially meaningful.

Finding humor in serious situations can also trigger a shift in perspective.

“On a cognitive or mental level, laughter can help us to look at circumstances differently,” says Katie Cherry, PhD, professor of psychology at Louisiana State University in Baton Rouge and author of The Other Side of Suffering: Finding a Path to Peace after Tragedy

In Cherry’s research on survivors of Hurricanes Katrina and Rita, using humor as a coping mechanism was associated with post-disaster resilience—defined as the ability to bounce back or respond positively to adversity. “The negative impacts of stressors may become more manageable and perhaps less overwhelming, both physiologically and psychologically, when one can laugh,” she says.

And yes, even dark comedy and “gallows humor” can have mental-health benefits, when used in appropriate contexts. For example, research on firefighters, crime scene investigators and medical professionals suggests that those who joke in the face of death and trauma on the job are less likely to suffer from problems like burnout or post-traumatic stress disorder

What kind of humor works—and what falls flat?
In the midst of a pandemic, though, seeking out humor is a little trickier. One place to start might be with comedy sources that are unrelated to current events.

Most of us could use a break from the news now and then. And for that reason, humor in the form of sitcoms, funny movies or stand-up comedy can provide a respite from the seemingly endless reel of frightening and tragic stories, Cherry says. 

“Familiar and funny, favorite old shows and movies can take the edge off of a bad day,” she says. “They can serve as comic ‘comfort food’ that can enhance wellbeing, if only temporarily.”

But what about jokes about COVID-19? Are they okay?

On one hand, making light of a stressful situation can be a coping mechanism, says Cherry, and can help people find humor in shared experiences. That may be what has caused memes and jokes about some of the more lighthearted parts of this pandemic—hoarding toilet paper, being stuck at home and struggling to learn videoconferencing technology, for example—to be so widely shared online.

But these jokes may seem less funny as the crisis continues to take a toll on jobs and human lives. Studies from the Humor Research Lab at the University of Colorado Boulder have found that situations are generally considered funny only when they’re also considered benign—and that usually, some time or distance from a tragic event is needed before it feels okay to joke about.

As an example of humor that got it "right," Cherry cites a viral video made by a British family who changed the words of the song “One Day More” from Les Misérables to reflect a litany of pandemic-related woes: grandparents who can't figure out how to Skype, kids who miss their friends and haven't changed their clothes for days, and more.

Jokes in this vein work because they're relatable. "Most everyone is becoming restless or bored at home, cooped up, not able to do what one normally does," Cherry says.

In contrast, jokes that are seen as aloof or insensitive (or both) likely won't land so well. Talk show host Ellen DeGeneres took down a video in which she compared being quarantined at her home to being in jail after online commenters pointed out that (a) DeGeneres lives in a huge house, and (b) people are literally dying in prison due to the COVID-19 outbreak.

Coming from a celebrity, the joke is less relatable, says Cherry. "Most of us don't live in a mansion or have the wealth and luxurious lives that others have," she says.

For now, Cherry points out, we are still in the thick of things. “This pandemic is a very new phenomenon that is unfolding in real time, with no real end in the foreseeable future,” she says. “In short, it may be too soon for many people to consider humor as a reasonable reaction to COVID-19.”

Your audience matters, too 
Humor, like grief, is a complex emotion that everyone experiences differently. But to stay on the safe side in times of crisis, Cherry suggests keeping jokes and lighthearted banter to smaller social circles of people who know each other well.

“Humor among friends, co-workers or family who have a shared history and long-standing tradition of kidding with each other might serve as a safe context for expression of humor, in light of the uncertainties associated with the pandemic and potential to offend,” she says.

Making jokes to a broader circle—on a public social media profile, for example—is riskier. Since the pandemic is affecting so many people in different ways, it’s impossible to know how your joke will land with every person at any given moment.

Even among those you’re closest with, it’s best to read the room first. “Timing, audience and circumstances are vitally important to consider,” says Cherry. Otherwise, she adds, “attempts at levity may fail miserably.”

Cherry points out that stress associated with the COVID-19 pandemic may be overwhelming to some people, especially for those suffering financial hardships, grieving the loss of a loved one or simply feeling exhausted and vulnerable.

That’s why it’s important to remember that even friends who are normally jovial and good natured may not appreciate humor right now—and that that can change by the day or even by the hour. For example, someone might find pandemic jokes funny until someone they know personally dies from the virus.

Humor does have healing powers, Cherry says, but it’s necessary to recognize that “one size does not fit all when it comes to the choice of coping strategies.” And when it comes to using laughter to deal with life’s stressors, she adds, “sensitivity, discretion and respect are key.”

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