How do I recognize if my child is in an unhealthy relationship?
Some teen relationships can be abusive, obsessive or otherwise harmful. Find out what to watch for if you're worried about your teenager's love life by watching this video featuring psychologist Dr. Jennifer Hartstein.
Oh, they love me because they're texting me a hundred times a day, when, in fact, it's much more about the control. [UPLIFTING MUSIC]
It's really hard to determine what's a healthy versus an unhealthy relationship in teenagers because, very often, the relationships are
rife with conflict and intensity, and that's part of being a teenager. The truth is that there are some hallmark
things you want to consider and watch for with your teens. If they're involved in a relationship where their partner or boyfriend or girlfriend
is texting them all the time, demanding to know where they are all the time, really needs to be in control of where they are all
the time, that's a red flag. You really want to think about that. If they can't spend any time with any of their other friends because their boyfriend or girlfriend demands
that they only spend time with him or her, that's another red flag. If your daughter or son is really
making excuses for their boyfriend or girlfriend-- another red flag. So you want to start to watch what the behaviors are
within that relationship and what might make you concerned. And again, if you're having that feeling in the pit of your stomach, you want
to be having conversations. Be prepared for there to be some denial, but be prepared to step in and protect your child because that is ultimately what needs to happen.
And they may not think that this is a problem. They may think, oh, they love me because they're texting me a hundred times a day when, in fact, it's
much more about the control and being in charge than it is about promoting a healthy relationship. Truth of the matter is middle schoolers
are reporting more and more unhealthy, abusive relationships than ever before. So you need to start having conversations
about what a healthy relationship is and what it looks like in fifth and sixth grade, not waiting until seventh and eighth grade because you may miss the boat, and it may be too late.
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