Dr. Tamar Chansky - How do I explain my child's anxiety issues to him?

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Kids are a really mystified a lot of the time when they are afraid about something they kind of they are so wrapped up in their fears that they stop thinking, and that concerns them too because usually they are thinking and solving problems so parents can be really helpful in explaining what's going on for the child, so that they don't feel like there's something wrong with them, they don't feel different.

Very important place to start is to let them know that all children worry. You can probably find something that your child is worried about that other kids or that your child is not worried about that other kids are worried about for example, let's say your child is not afraid of dogs but a lot of kids are afraid of dogs so you can say how you love your dog, but you have some friends you don't want to come over to the house because they're afraid of your dog, worry can learnt lots of different places.

So that's one important message first of all let your child know they are not alone. But the next part really is letting your child know that worry is a voice in your head that does one thing and one thing really well. And it's all about saying what could go wrong in a situation, so you can let your child know when you hear that voice, what is this, what is that, that's your worry voice and it's helpful then to ask your child what do you want to call the other voice in your head that has has a different take on the situation, do you want to call it your smart brain, or your cone brain or your good brain and what you're trying to do is help your child to see that they have choices between the worry track and the good track or the true track because then even when you're not there explaining it to them, when they start to hear what if, they're going to be able to think with that's my worry talking to me, what do I really think it's going to happen, let me give the microphone to the other side of the story.