What Are Some Solutions for Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction?

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Some of the couples that I've seen in my practice that come in complaining that their husband is too focused on porn or that they might be porn addiction, and I want to point out that there really is a spectrum, so pornography in itself watching it may not be harmful to your relationship, however for some people they find that they need more and more pornography to be aroused, but they're not able to be aroused without it, that they're spending a lot of of time seeking it, and they may get in trouble at their job because they are on websites or because they are spending a lot of time at the workplace, so number one identifying the problem before you can even talk about a solution, so knowing that there is a link between your husband's pornography use and the erectile dysfunction the second thing is being able to communicate about it openly, and non-judgmentally and non critically.

So you don't want to put any emphasis on blame on this person, because you're not a bad person, it's not that they don't love you it's that they have some behavioral/ physiological brain issue, and the third thing is to start with re-wiring disassociation, so some of the things we tell men is to give yourself a Hyere, so give yourself about four weeks where you're not Hyere, so having porn induced masturbation, and there isn't this relationship, and if you're going to masturbate, to have the right touching but not necessarily sexual touching.

So what I mean by this is that the partners are lying in the bed, their clothes are off, and each partner takes about five minutes touching other person's body, but avoiding the erroneous zones,. So avoiding genitalia, breasts and focusing other parts of the body, and re-configuring that association between pleasure and touch, and not necessarily sexual touch.

So that means after all these touching, although you might be aroused, the key is not to have sex afterwards. But this, doesn't have to be, touching doesn't have to be a prelude to sex, it can an end in an [xx] of itself.