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How Do I Cope When I First Find Out I Have Cancer?

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Well, most people when they go through this extended period of time, when they have this suspicious symptom and they go through all the different tasks and all the different offices, and then find out that they have cancer or really suspecting it unless it's a surprise diagnosis, and most of the time when people actually hear the words, they describe it's kind of like a suspended animation when nothing else that happens after that really registers, and they feel kind of numb, that doesn't last, that's usually momentary or for a short period of time.

So when you are going for your really important visits at first, take somebody with you who can keep track of the details and take notes because very few people remember a lot of what happens after the word cancer is said. That numbness can generally turns out to be pretty upset because people start projecting into the future and think of all the things that they may not be able to do either temporarily or permanently.

They're worried they are going to be in pain, they're worried they are going to slow up, they're worried that they're not going to be able to do the things that they need to do to support themselves and their family or go back to school, they're worried that they are going to be dependent upon a system that many of us don't trust as much as we used to and they are worried that they're just not going to be themselves.

So all of those things put together, put somebody in that kind of funk, something sad, sadness or an anticipatorial bereavement in regular everyday English we call that depression although that's not the kind of depression that mental health people actually refer to when they talk about a depression where you take the bed and can't function.

But everybody is upset, everybody is sad and that generally moves into an area where people think that they want to do their best and try their best. Some people linger in a period where they're just so upset that they feel kind of stuck and a little bit of counselling is really helpful to normalize those feelings because it's pretty universal during cancer diagnosis.