Masturbating to pornography can cause problems in your relationship, says sex and relationship expert Ian Kerner. In this video, Dr. Kerner explains why he recommends pleasuring yourself to your imagination instead of pornography.
Let's talk about some practical thoughts here, is there an alternative to porn? If you say that men want to masturbate anyway, what else is out there? I think it's very important for men to masturbate to their own imaginations, to masturbate to their memories, to masturbate to thoughts of their partner, orgasm is a very powerful feel good reward in the brain, it lights up all parts of the brain, so when you actually masturbate to thoughts of your partner you're creating a neuro association, a brain association between that feel good positive reward of orgasm and your partner and it will actually help you to feel affectionate and feel loving towards your partner so again I'm not saying you have to eliminate the porn but it's a little like TV versus reading a book, read the book sometimes, seriously there's great erotic literature out there too, use your imaginations use your fantasies, use thoughts of her, don't waste it all on the porn.
Ian Kerner, PhD, is a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author. Ian appears frequently on the TODAY Show and CBS Early Show and holds advanced degrees from New York University.
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