How can I fit sex into my busy life?
Does it feel like you’re too busy for sex? Sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD, offers up some creative ways to make sex a priority again and fit intimacy into your schedule.
Transcript
Sex ruts are really dangerous. They really make relationships vulnerable. So you really have to prioritize intimacy.
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So, how do you fit sex into your busy life? It is a common complaint. We are all running around like crazy, doing our jobs.
Many of us have kids. How do we have time for sex? And often, by the time we collapse into bed at the end of the night, we want to do nothing more than just
maybe watch a little TV, check our email, and collapse and go to sleep. So it's really important to start making sex a priority.
I have to tell you sex ruts are really dangerous. They really make relationships vulnerable.
So you really have to prioritize intimacy. What does that mean? Well, maybe you'll develop the art of the quickie
and find little ways of getting it on and getting it going. Sometimes a quickie doesn't even have to involve an orgasm.
It can involve touching. It can involve connecting. It can involve hugging. It can involve even just sharing a sexy text
or a sexy conversation with your partner. But it helps to build a little bit of anticipation throughout the day. I think the other thing that couples have to do
is find creative ways to create more quality time together. Maybe you should have a babysitter come over
and the babysitter goes out with the kids and you stay home and have sex. Or maybe you get in the habit of waking up a half hour earlier so that you can have sex on occasion.
Or maybe there's a day where both you and your partner can work from home, and you can squeeze in a little sexy time
then. So whatever your strategy, it's important to just take the time to really prioritize intimacy.
Have sex. Trust me. It will be time well spent. [AUDIO LOGO]
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