What Are Some Proven Techniques for Preventing Tantrums?

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Now it doesn't take an expert and Pavlovian psychology, to know that children can use tantrums to get what they want. One of the most proven techniques Dr. Ron to help prevent tantrums. That goes back to that neuron [xx] principle as well. You want to be consistent in your response, you want to be calm in your response, and you don't want to have so much of a behavior, be want too much of your behavior to be about rewarding the negative.

So, if your child gets what he wants, the louder he screams, he's going to learn that screaming is a good thing. What we can often promote is strategy such as time outs. Time outs can be used from a year of age on and what happens is, you catch baby or toddler doing something that you really don't want them doing and you can say we don't do such and such, that's not safe for you.

And if they do it that one more time you can say, okay we're going to put you in a time out and it's about a minute per year of age. So one year, one minute, two years, two minutes, three years, three minutes. Exactly, and so then, the time out place can be some place that's not too rewarding.

So for instance, if it's in your house, don't put them in a room where they can play with all the toys for that minute. You want to maybe put them on the stairs or in a place in the kitchen, where they have to sit for that minute and then you can count off. You can say, okay, 30 more seconds till time out is done, 10 more seconds.

Alright, you may rejoin us now and next time we really would preferred it, if you don't throw the bucket of water on your siblings head, because that's not very helpful to the sibling. So you could explain very calmly what the behaviour was. If you find that your child when they throw a tantrum, bangs their hand against the floor.

You can kind of gently put something under that and turn your back. Basically as long as they are safe and they are not going to need stitches emergency room visit from the head banging but you can make it so that they are not getting lots of your attention for the bad behavior.

And you can also make sure that the end of the time out doesn't come with such a reward that they want a time out. What we find, you can find that your kid will actually by the time they're two or three ask for their own time out, and you may not even know what it is that they did.

It's a very useful self regulating strategy kids can learn.