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Should I change my behavior in order to stop being too nice at work?
A word here about consequences of changing behavior at work versus with friends or family. Because you’re paid for what you do, you do have to be a wee bit cautious about how you approach de-...
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Being a nice girl, why do I fail to take credit for my work?
Women who are too nice have a tendency to feel grossly uncomfortable taking compliments and praise, never mind whooping it up over their achievements. While humility is an admirable quality, it nee...
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Why are nice girls bad at taking compliments and credit?
This is something one would think you’d want to do automatically. Unfortunately, you are much better at believing that you haven’t done enough (and feeling guilt, shame, etc.) than beli...
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As a nice girl, why do I need to balance my work and personal lives?
Reaching a balance encourages you to throw yourself into goal-oriented tasks and feel good about accomplishments (which adds to a sense of competence and builds self-esteem) and allows you to turn ...
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Why am I driven toward perfectionism since my childhood?
The drive behind perfection is more complex and subtle than parental modeling and expectations. If there was a tremendous amount of dysfunction and shame-based activity in your house growing up, pe...
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How did my upbringing turn me into a perfectionist?
Our upbringing is a major factor in determining whether or not we turn into perfectionists. As with psychiatric and substance disorders, perfectionism tends to run in families. If you have one pare...
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How does religion help in shaping me to become nice and perfect?
Religion encourages us to have only pure thoughts and do only good deeds. Need I remind you of the Ten Commandments? I personally think there needs to be an expanded set of commandments that are no...
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Why is perfectionism a problem for nice girls?
The two main problems with perfectionism are that it feels so darned satisfying and that it’s highly prized and rewarded. In a society whose excesses have excess and that willfully turns a bl...
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Why are most nice girls found to be perfectionists?
Because of your ongoing quest to be all things to all people, never disappoint, and always do everything to a tee, there’s a good chance that your lips have difficulty shaping no. Oddly, yes ...
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How do I know if I am a perfectionist?
If you’re a perfectionist - and my hunch is that most of you sport this label - you probably know it, but for any of you who aren’t quite certain, here are the telltale signs. Doing som...
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How can I control my niceness where my friends are concerned?
To end your nice girl manifesto towards your friends:Extend yourself toward people you like and care about.Expect friends to be emotionally healthy, self-aware, and working on resolving their issue...
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What is the best way a woman should take care of herself?
This means developing strategies to keep your mind active and challenged and your body healthy. It includes everything from getting medical checkups to wearing weather-appropriate clothing to findi...
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How can I develop quality friendships?
Many women don’t know how to go out and pick friends and end up sliding into relationships with whoever’s available - your next-door neighbor who’s always begging you to go out fo...
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How can I learn to take criticism and negative feedback better?
What a doozy of a skill for any of us. It’s never fun to hear negative things about yourself. However, it needn’t be a knife in the back either. Listen up, you’re going to do some...
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What should I avoid doing to make better friend choices?
To make better friend choices, don’t:Keep friends just because you feel bad for them or are afraid to cut them loose.Accept ongoing excuses from people who cannot live up to your reasonable e...
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