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How can using the penile stop-start or squeeze techniques affect sex?

Ian Kerner, PhD
Sexual Health
Many experts advocate the integration of behavioral exercises during sex such as the stop-start method and the squeeze technique, both of which require a high degree of partner collaboration. And while communication and teamwork are part of any healthy relationship, these techniques may actually do more harm than good when you consider that one of the main goals for any man struggling with premature ejaculation (PE) is to successfully bring his partner to orgasm. Women, unlike men, do not experience a moment of ejaculatory inevitability and can actually “lose” an orgasm even as it’s happening. For example, many women will say that if there’s a change to the pattern of stimulation during sex, or an interruption or distraction, the whole experience could be derailed. This “sexual derailment” may be due to a difference in the way the female brain processes arousal. In fact, recent research suggests that women may actually need to “turn off” in order to turn on.

If your partner is being distracted by a lot of “stopping and starting” or feels interrupted or anxious about having to “squeeze” your penis at a certain point, she’s far less likely to experience the mental deactivation necessary to her own sexual enjoyment and orgasm. These oft-advocated exercises, as recommended, are highly ineffective in leading to successful sexual experiences. However, if they’re re-conceptualized in a way that allows guys to use them with a sex-script that doesn’t distract a woman or place the burden of participation on her, they can be part of an overall solution for PE.
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