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How can I manage PE by delaying my point of ejaculatory inevitability?

Ian Kerner, PhD
Sexual Health
Delaying your point of ejaculatory inevitability can help you manage premature ejaculation (PE) and experience mind-blowing orgasms, but to do so you need to identify what revs your engine and what presses your brakes. Make a list of your pedals and brakes -- the types of stimulation that turn you on, as well as the kinds of fears and concerns that turn you off. Of course, pedals and brakes can vary between individuals -- what acts as a pedal for you may be a brake for someone else -- but here are some examples to get you started.

Pedals
• Visual excitement (looking at your partner, viewing pornography)
• Tactile excitement (being touched by or touching your partner or yourself, the amount of friction or lubrication used, manual or oral stimulation)
• Sexual excitement (thinking about sex or your partner, daydreaming, fantasizing, anticipating sex)
• Some pedals are more specific to PE. What may act like brakes for other men -- negative emotions or being interrupted during sex, for example -- may push guys with PE over the edge.

These types of pedals include:

• Environmental excitement (seeing or hearing or anticipating interruptions that may speed ejaculation, such as a knock at the door, crying baby, barking dog, sirens, ringing phone, etc.)

• Emotions like anxiety, which goes hand in hand with sex for most guys with PE

Brakes

• Fear of negative consequences from sex, such as sexually transmitted diseases, pain, injury, and unintended pregnancy
• Worries or concerns about pleasing your partner
• Concerns about being overheard or seen by others while having sex
• Distracting thoughts or relationship problems
• Outside distractions like music, television, or talking
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