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Why is “knowing” the vulva so important in satisfying my partner?

Ian Kerner, PhD
Sexual Health

To satisfy your partner, you have to know your way around the geography of her vulva. That includes the northern tippy-top of the clitoral glans (the “love-button,” so to speak), to the western and eastern boundaries of the labia minora (her inner lips) to the southernmost regions of the perineum (the smooth expanse of skin just below the vaginal entrance) and anus. Understanding a woman’s body is crucial to helping her achieve orgasm: With more than 18 parts, twice as many nerve endings as the penis, and the enviable ability to produce multiple orgasms, the clitoris is the indisputable powerhouse of female sexuality. The vast majority of nerve endings that contribute to female orgasm are located on the surface of the vulva and do not require vaginal penetration. That’s why applying pressure and rhythm to the vulva, and specifically the clitoris, is more important than constantly thrusting or switching positions. In fact, many intercourse positions don’t stimulate her clitoris at all -- and won’t give her an orgasm. So get cliterate!

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