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Why can fantasy lead to a better sex life?

Ian Kerner, PhD
Sexual Health

Sexuality counselor Dr. Ian Kerner explains how fantasy can lead to a better sex life. Watch Dr. Kerner's video for tips and information on maintaining healthy relationships and a healthy sex life.


Ian Kerner, PhD
Sexual Health

Sigmund Freud gave fantasy a bad name back in 1908 when he said, “A happy person never fantasizes, only a dissatisfied one.” But research shows that people with active fantasy lives are more sexually satisfied, more sexually responsive and more adventurous regarding sex in general. There’s a difference between sharing a fantasy and actually acting one out, and sharing a naughty thought or two might be all you need to get the ball rolling. Studies have found that women tend to fantasize more than men during sex, which helps them escape reality and facilitate that important process of “turning off” the brain. Fantasy is a cousin of dreaming and as neuroscientist Mark Solms, a leading expert in the field of sleep research, explains, “Dreaming does for the brain what Saturday morning cartoons do for the kids: It keeps them sufficiently entertained so that the serious players in the household can get needed recovery time. Without such diversion, the brain would be urging us up and out into the world to keep it fully engaged.” Guys with premature ejaculation can rely on fantasy as a powerful tool to get a woman closer to orgasm without having to rely on physical stimulation.

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