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Dial In Romance, Turn Off the Phone

Dial In Romance, Turn Off the Phone

The MLB's rules of player conduct state no use of mobile phones, laptops, or texting in the clubhouse within an hour of game time and on the bench or field any time. But, says Boston sports writer Adam Jones, that didn’t keep Red Sox second baseman Pablo Sandoval from running back into the clubhouse to use his phone to access Instagram during a 5-2 loss to the Braves last June.

That kind of disregard for what you should be focusing on is rampant these days, and even has a name: Phubbing, short for phone snubbing. In fact, recent research, published in the journal Computers in Human Behavior found that almost 50 percent of folks have been phubbed by their partner and it’s damaging their love life and bumming them out.

What are signs you’re being phubbed? Your honey positions his or her cellphone so it can be seen when you’re together; your partner glances at the phone while taking to you; and whenever there’s a lull in conversation your partner checks the phone.

More importantly -- what’s the solution? Mention your concern (or text it, if necessary!) and negotiate a step-by-step change in behavior: Start by asking that the phone be kept face down on tabletops. After a week, ask for it to remain in a pocket or purse. Want to be really daring? Ask that it be turned off or left at home. Remember the human race got along okay for many thousand of years before there were cell phones.

Medically reviewed in January 2020.

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