How can my nagging affect my spouse’s health?

Dr. Mehmet Oz, MD
Cardiology (Cardiovascular Disease)

Nagging can snatch 8 years from your spouse’s life:

Why The incessant criticism and task piling that come in the form of nagging can raise stress levels throughout the body. That stress, in turn, can cause a build-up of chronic inflammation, which can damage both mental and cardiovascular health. Plus, we all know from experience that nagging usually backfires, making your spouse withdraw rather than join you in getting things done.

What you can do

• Choose appropriate times to make requests of your partner (not during
  his or her favorite TV show or during the playoffs).

• Ask in a calm, kind voice.

• Try making a list of what you need help accomplishing so your spouse
  can consult it and refer back to it without having to be reminded by

• Set deadlines for tasks and let your spouse accomplish them on his or
  her own schedule.

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