How can I recover from a divorce?

Dr. Michael Roizen, MD
Internal Medicine
While divorce is never pleasant, some people manage to come out the other side in pretty good shape, while others crumble and have a terrible time, even in similar situations.

One explanation states that if you're trying to regroup from a divorce, or any difficult emotional event (and there are many in these tough times), cut yourself plenty of slack. Show yourself as much compassion as you'd show a best friend struggling through the same mess. Being kind to yourself may be the most vital thing you can do -- even more important than being optimistic or having a healthy sense of self-esteem. Here’s how:
  • Don't beat yourself up. Think, "I did the best I could in the circumstances." If something keeps gnawing at you, forgive yourself. Don't get mired in a cycle of self-recrimination.
  • Understand that it's not just you. Everyone goes through loss. Difficult experiences are part of the ups and downs of being a human.
  • Tap into life's deeper meaning. Be authentic and spiritual, in whatever way makes sense to you.
Oh, there's one other thing that will help you get through it: being a woman. Surveys show that females recover better from divorce. They even gain less weight afterward!

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