How can couples capitalize on their differences in bed?

Dr. Michael Roizen, MD
Internal Medicine

We all know the whole Mars and Venus debate. Men are different sexual creatures than women. Men respond to new visual cues; women respond to friendly emotional ones. Go a little deeper and you understand that it's more that men respond to fear and excitement, and women respond to intimacy. Instead of agreeing to disagree, couples should capitalize on their differences to help make their partners more comfortable in bed. So what does that mean? A man should make it a habit to look into his partner's eyes during sex: That eye lock is a way to increase intimacy (and oxytocin). And a woman should acknowledge that her partner's arousal may be based on more urgency, meaning that it's not so bad to have the lights on during sex, or crave a quickie, or meet up for a lunch hour that involves absolutely no lunch at all.

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