What should I do if I am an adult who is being bullied?

Erik Fisher

Psychology

If you have time, script out what you might want to say and/or role play an adult bullying situation with someone. Make sure the person that is role playing the bully is willing to play "the bully" to push your reactions so you can discuss it and practice it. If you don't have time to script it or are caught in a bullying situation, use these guidelines:

Stay calm and don't allow yourself to be baited into the conflict. Remember, no one can take away your power unless you give it.
Stay focused on your and their behaviors.
Point out solutions for everyone's behaviors that can lead to a positive outcome for all.
Be willing to walk away and offer the opportunity to revisit it later if they do not calm down, and/or be willing to ask them to leave if they cannot behave respectfully.
Set and discuss ground rules for future interactions and remain firm in following those guidelines.

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