Why are some people mean?

Brenda K. Wade, PhD
Why are some people toxic and mean? Here’s what happens. Before the age of eight, children are miniature recording devices, they download whatever they see, hear, touch, taste, or smell, directly into their brains. Your brain can only learn through your five senses. Remember this: those who don’t heal their own hurt feelings, turn around and do unto others what was done to them. Even when it comes to love, they actually believe that “love equals pain”. That’s the pattern formed in their brain during childhood. It’s what my mom learned and what I learned too. Toxic people are not bad people, they just haven’t learned new patterns.

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