What is triangulation and why should I try my damdest to avoid it?

This is probably a new strategy for you. You may not even know what it means. Triangulation refers to any kind of interpersonal triangle - think of it as not getting caught in the middle of two (or more) people’s craziness. When you try to smooth over a blowout between your mother and sister that doesn’t involve you, you’re getting triangulated. The same is true when your daughter and husband or two best friends are battling, or two bigwigs at work are in conflict. If it has nothing to do with you, reduce your stress, step back, and uncomfortable as that makes you, stop trying to fix the problem and stay out of it!