How do people get lost in their pain?

Deepak Chopra
Alternative & Complementary Medicine
Pain has a subjective component and how we assess pain is completely individual. By not renouncing their control over it people get lost in their pain. "What can I do? My mother just died, and I'm devastated. I can't even get out of bed in the morning." In such a statement there seems to be a direct link between cause (the death of a loved one) and effect (depression). But, in fact, the trail followed between cause and effect isn't a straight line; the whole person enters the picture, with a wealth of factors from the past. It's as if pain enters a black box before we feel it, and in that box the pain is matched up with everything we are -- our whole history of emotions, memories, beliefs, and expectations. If you are self-aware, the black box isn't so sealed off and hidden. You know that you can affect what goes on inside it. But when we suffer, we victimize ourselves. In truth, suffering persists only to the extent that we allow ourselves to remain lost in our own creation.

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