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How do I handle raising twins or multiple babies?

Dr. Mehmet Oz, MD
Cardiology (Cardiovascular Disease)

I recommend the National Organization of Mothers of Twins Clubs for parents raising twins or multiples to address specific issues and concerns and to find a local chapter. Here, a few pointers to get you started:

  • Stay on Task. In terms of logistics, the big trick is staying organized. As tired as you may be at times, it's imperative (for your own sanity) to stay organized -- and to get help from your partner and other family members. You'll always need to be equipped with the right amount of diapers, bottles, etc., and staying prepared will make life easier all around.
  • Figure out a Feeding Routine. Feeding two infants is tricky no matter how you cut it. And your situation (breast or bottle or both) will dictate how you can manage it. We recommend that you feed both at the same time (or one right after another), so that they can stay on similar feeding and sleeping schedules. While it may be more efficient to feed them in car seats at the same time as they get older, do keep in mind that babies prefer being held when fed.
  • Think Solo. Even though you can have a lot of fun and enjoy "cute" moments with twins or multiples doing things together (and dressing alike), you should really do what you can to make sure that they're treated as individuals as much as possible. That means doing things like:
  • choosing different-sounding names;
  • dressing them in different colors;
  • not calling them "the twins," but by name;
  • taking time out to spend private time with each individually;
  • buying different toys, books, etc., based on their personal interests, not focusing so much on trying to be "equal";
  • having them in different preschool classrooms, if possible;
  • encouraging cooperation rather than competition between the two
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