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    Your child learns a great deal about morality simply by your behavior. That’s why it’s so important to model what you want your child to copy. If you want your child to be kind whenever you are together, consciously demonstrate kind behavior. We tend to do kind behaviors so naturally that our children may miss them, so deliberately tune them up.

    There are so many daily opportunities: watching your friend’s child, phoning a friend who is down, picking up trash, soothing a child, giving directions, asking someone how she is, baking cookies for your family. After performing the kindness, be sure to tell your child how good it made you feel!

    By seeing kindness in through your daily words and deeds and hearing you emphasize how being kind makes you feel good, your child will be much more likely to follow your example. The old saying, Children learn what they live, has a lot of truth to it.
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    Multiples often look, act and even think alike, and in addition because they share similar interests, classrooms, scout troops, friends, and even birthdays, others often see them as a "package deal."

    What's more, because they share so many similarities, they are constantly compared to one another and fuel competition amongst them. And that's a huge disservice to their emotional growth. After all, these kids are also separate and unique and deserve to be treated as individuals. So:
    • Find the unique talent or strength in each sibling -- singing, karate, guitar, a jazz dancing group basketball, drawing, surfing, or whatever. Then provide individual opportunities to nurture her talent so she is recognized for her special abilities.
    • Encourage them to try at least one separate activity such as scouting, Boys and Girls Club, a swim team. Parents often sign multiples up for the same activities or sport team (I know, it's easier to carpool but...) which may force competing against each other.
    • Refrain from labeling! Watch out about calling one child more "gifted" or "our little student."
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    Just as a birdwatcher can distinguish the tweets of an oriole, chickadee, or a yellow-headed caracara, it won't take long before you can ID your baby's cry. But to help you early on, here are some tip-offs about what he wants when he's fussing. If he's squirming it could be that he has a dirty diaper. If he's turning his head to the side or putting his fist to his mouth, he might be hungry. If he's pulling his legs up to the chest and has a tense body then he may have gas. If he's sweating and had red ears then he may be too warm, so check his temperature and loosen his clothing.

    If he's getting goose bumps or has purplish tone to his hands and feet, he's too cold and needs a blanket or a hat and socks. If he's flailing his arms and legs or turns from the light then he might be over-stimulated, so take him out of the current environment to a quieter one. If he's blink and yawning as well as kicking, then he might be tired. And if he's squirming and looking around, he just needs a cuddle.
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    Make sure you recheck the teacher's website for your child's current grades and test scores. If you notice a downslide in your child's academic progress:

    Set a conference with teacher. Review test scores, grades, as well as achievement test results, which should be available.

    Find out what would improve school performance -- a tutor, a class change, or hitting those books harder -- then develop a plan together before you leave that meeting.

    If your child needs a tutor consider hiring a retired teacher or even a high school student if cost is an issue.

    Check upcoming class projects with your child like the science fair, extended book report or that social studies project, and mark due dates on a calendar so your child can allow time and effort to complete those tasks.
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    Some fun chores for kids are the ones which…
    ·        provide the kids with a rewarding experience
    ·        appeal to the kids’ interests
    ·        utilize the kids’ strengths and talents
    ·        expand the kids’ horizon in developing self-confidence
    ·        enhance the kids sense of pride
    ·        increase the kids’ sense of accomplishment and independence

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    As early as preschool, you can begin teaching your child non-aggressive ways to handle conflict and what to do if someone becomes aggressive with them (at this age, it’s best to tell the teacher!). As your children grow, nurture their self-esteem and teach them to stand up for themselves. If your child has trouble in this area, perhaps some martial arts lessons could help raise their self-confidence while teaching them to defend themselves against violence.

    From Good Kids, Bad Habits: The RealAge Guide to Raising Healthy Children by Jennifer Trachtenberg.

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    To travel safely in a car with your newborn baby, your baby will need a safety-approved rear-facing car seat. Some manufacturers make rear-facing convertible seats, which can be switched to a front-facing seat once your child has reached the height and weight requirements. Rear-facing seats placed in the back seat are the safest option for your baby.

    Be sure that the seat is strapped into your car properly and that your baby is buckled in correctly. On the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration’s website, you can find a local inspection station where the staff will check to make sure that the car seat is safely installed.

    This content originally appeared on the HCA Virginia Physicians blog.
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    I find that the kids who seem to be the most comfortable in their own skin also have consistently good habits. Their established routines help them understand what is expected of them while letting them know what choices they have in their lives. This feeling of familiarity brings children a sense of comfort and allows them to feel as though they have some control over their environment and their lives, which is key. It’s like having an internal navigation system—they can easily find their way around their world without feeling lost or out of control.

    From Good Kids, Bad Habits: The RealAge Guide to Raising Healthy Children by Jennifer Trachtenberg.

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    When it comes to solving a new puzzle, playing a game, or doing homework, does your child do any of the following:

    • Throw a fit
    • Whine
    • Procrastinate
    • Become frustrated
    • Cry easily
    • Seem disinterested
    • Become angry
    Or does he:
    • Show effort and perseverance
    • Take pleasure or pride in his success
    • Express an eagerness to learn
    • Appropriately express frustration

    Would it surprise you to know that these two sets of behaviors can be symptoms of both giftedness and disability? That’s right. A child who is classified as “gifted” can face challenges that lead to behavior problems, and a child who struggles with learning disabilities can exhibit similar behavior.

    Parents are always curious about their child’s intellectual capabilities and development. Is my child average? Below average? Gifted? Does she have a learning disability? And, regardless of where their child is, developmentally, they want reassurance that they are doing everything they can to encourage advancement. Thus, all the extracurricular classes.

    Given the choice, most every parent would wish for a curious, bright, socially well-adjusted child. That isn’t always the hand you’re dealt, but you can make a difference in how the hand’s played. No matter how old your child is, no matter where he is on the road of cognitive development, you can still make significant strides in ensuring his intellectual strength.

    From Good Kids, Bad Habits: The RealAge Guide to Raising Healthy Children by Jennifer Trachtenberg.

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    With toddlers, you need to remember that you are the grown-up. You need not take it personally when your child resists total submission. If you let your ego be threatened by your child's ego, then any attempt at conscious interaction is forfeit.

    On the other hand, reluctance to be an authority figure is an equally dangerous parenting pitfall that many parents succumb to. We love our children so much that we want them to be happy. This is a good thing, but too often we equate being happy with meeting every single demand instantaneously, which is not good. It is important for toddlers to understand that they do not rule the house. Getting everything all the time does not make them happy. It makes them little tyrants. Toddlers need to learn to process disappointment and respond appropriately. Life will teach them that they do not always get what they want. It is far better if that lesson comes early and in a compassionate way from a loving parent.

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