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How fair is it for me to expect my teens to do things I don't do myself?

Hal Runkel
Hal Runkel on behalf of ScreamFree
Marriage & Family Therapy
When it comes to managing teens, you may feel like you're being unfair to expect them to do things you yourself don't do. But that's okay.

As a good general rule, the more you can close the gap between what you say and what you do, the better. This will lead to far less friction between you and your teens as you seek to set standards with them. They may still resist; they aren’t fully mature yet. But you’ll at least have eliminated the “legitimate double standard” accusation.

The bright side to the gap between how you act and how you expect your teens to act is that it forces you to focus on yourself and stretch higher than you otherwise might. And that’s a real win for you.

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