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The Sex Talk—It Works

The Sex Talk—It Works

When Cut Video recorded young kids and their parents having the birds-and-bees talk, 10,000,000 folks went to YouTube to see Moms and Dads struggling with the facts of life -- and kids struggling to understand.

Mother 1: How did Mommy and Daddy make you?

Daughter 1: Magic.

Father 2: What makes me a man and mother a woman?

Daughter 2: Your hands are bigger?

Father 3: So there’s nothing from me you want to know about sex or how people have babies?

Son 3: I do not want to know! 

As tough as that sex talk is, fast forward to when your kids are preteens or teens. You know when they’re that age you need to discuss why to wait, what’s safe, and how to avoid pregnancy. (Fully 32 percent of ninth graders in the U.S. have sexual relations and there are around 600,000 unintended teen pregnancies annually.) But here’s the good news.

A recent study finds when moms talk to adolescents about sex it helps protect kids (especially girls) from unsafe sexual practices. Other research shows talking about birth control and pregnancy helps kids postpone having sex.

So be brave! Ask questions (don’t lecture) and listen to what your tween or teen has to say. Then share your thoughts and ideas, focusing on the facts about relationships and sex. You’ll remember those talks with your kids -- we sure do -- and be glad you had ‘em. It’s an important part of providing them with a bright and hopeful future.

Medically reviewed in January 2020.

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