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Why does my toddler disobey me?

Toddlers are really in a mini-adolescence. They are struggling mightily with how to act, whom to be like ("How can I get some power around this place, anyway?"), and otherwise asserting themselves in really important, developmentally appropriate ways. When I evaluate toddlers, the ones who worry me the most are those who are quiet, passive little things who don’t cause a minute of struggle for anyone. Those children are either delayed in some form or really repressing themselves, which will cause big trouble later on. You don’t want to stamp out a toddler’s powerful, striving little spirit -- but you don’t want to give them the upper hand, either. That’s even more destructive down the road.

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