How can fetishes about weight be harmful?

There is a small world of people that maintain fantasies around very overweight people, and specifically how they eat. These fantasies and patterns are often regarded with distaste and concern. The dark side of this is that women who are on the receiving end of this fantasy often maintain the weight in the name of the positive attention received from “fans.” The weights being maintained (sometimes in excess of 400 pounds) are extremely dangerous and place the person at risk for a variety of health conditions. A variety of psychological explanations have been tendered for the people who want to watch people “overfeed” themselves, as well as for why people would maintain such dangerous weights.

We as a culture need to take a step back and wonder about the horror with which we regard this phenomenon of celebrating extreme obesity. We as a culture also sexualize and perhaps even “fetishize” excessive thinness. The standard of beauty promulgated in our culture is often depicted by young women whose weight is unhealthily low. But would we view men who fantasize about underweight lingerie models as “fetishists”?

So, what’s the difference? Anorexia nervosa has mortality rates higher than nearly any other mental illness. Obesity is a major contributor to severe health conditions that place a person at risk for an early death. In both cases, the eating behaviors can place the person at tremendous health risks. The only difference is what we as a culture hold up as attractive.

Eating behaviors and standards of beauty are reinforced by other people. Women get praised for losing weight—so they keep losing weight (or obsess about it). Conversely, women who are extremely obese and get praised for that will maintain that weight as well.

If we as a culture want to address the epidemic of obesity and unhealthy relationships with food, then we need to fix the culture. We need to stop stigmatizing people who are overweight; we need to teach young women (and men) about healthy body image; we need to stop setting unrealistic standards of beauty; and we need to teach children to make healthy choices. We need to find respect—for each other and ourselves.

When I work with people who are significantly overweight, I am less concerned about how they eat and more concerned about how they view themselves and their health. Whether it’s overeating or starving oneself, the national pastime of abusing our bodies with food has to stop.

Continue Learning about Obesity

Turn Back the Clock on the Obesity Epidemic
Turn Back the Clock on the Obesity Epidemic
Were you breaking into the workforce back when Elvis was king and a gallon of gas cost 25 cents? Yes? Then your job was probably active enough to keep...
Read More
Can morbid obesity be treated through diet alone?
Parham Doctors' Hospital - HCA VirginiaParham Doctors' Hospital - HCA Virginia
There are two treatment methods for morbid obesity—medical and surgical. Medical management involves...
More Answers
6 Surprising Factors That Increase Your Obesity Risk
6 Surprising Factors That Increase Your Obesity Risk6 Surprising Factors That Increase Your Obesity Risk6 Surprising Factors That Increase Your Obesity Risk6 Surprising Factors That Increase Your Obesity Risk
You knew overeating and inactivity can up your odds—but the list doesn't end there.
Start Slideshow
What's Causing America's Obesity Problem?
What's Causing America's Obesity Problem?

Important: This content reflects information from various individuals and organizations and may offer alternative or opposing points of view. It should not be used for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. As always, you should consult with your healthcare provider about your specific health needs.