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Why don't men want sex sometimes?

Ian Kerner, PhD
Sexual Health
Low male desire is at all-time high, and is likely to occur for any number of reasons:

Biological. There are many possible physical causes of low male sexual desire, from heart disease, to antidepressants, to alcohol or drug use, to low levels of testosterone. If he's ruled out other factors, it's a good idea for him to pay a visit to his doctor.

Emotional. A guy's sex drive is often closely tied to his self-esteem -- when one suffers, so does the other. The economic downturn has sent lots of men into a funk: Job changes or loss, financial worries, and depression can all add up to a low libido. He may feel like less of a man, no matter how much his partner tells him that money doesn't matter.

Relationship. Feelings like anger, resentment, and general dissatisfaction with his relationship can play havoc on a man's sex life with his partner -- but these issues don't necessarily sink his libido. Sure, he may claim he's not in the mood. But he may simply be putting his sexual energy elsewhere, whether into masturbation, porn, strip clubs, or an affair. What happens outside of the bedroom affects what happens inside the bedroom, and when men are bored in their relationship they tend to get bored in the bedroom.

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